The questions

Send these ahead of time.

Thirty-seven questions across five sections, designed to move from where someone came from to what they know now. They aren't a script. They're prompts to let memory surface before you sit down together.

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Print it, email it, or read it on your phone. Tell them they don't need to write anything. Just let it sit a few days.

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The sections run roughly chronologically through a life, but you don't have to start at the beginning. Pick wherever feels most alive on a given day. Each section runs about forty-five minutes to an hour.

Part One 6 questions

Where you came from.

Childhood, home, family, the people who shaped them.

For example Walk us through the places you lived growing up. Which one felt most like yours?

Part Two 7 questions

Who you were becoming.

The kid they were, friendships, first loves, first sense of self.

For example When did you first feel like yourself, like you knew what you were made of?

Part Three 9 questions

The work you did in the world.

Career, calling, contributions, the uncredited work.

For example What's something you contributed that almost nobody knows about?

Part Four 8 questions

Love, family, and the life you built.

Partnership, children, the hardest and best parts.

For example What's a memory with your child or children that you return to most often? Not the proudest. The one that keeps coming back.

Part Five 7 questions

What you know now.

Reflections, what they'd want remembered, the things still unsaid.

For example What do you want the people who love you to remember about you? Not the resume. The real stuff.

One more thing before you start.

Read the keeper's guide first. Five short techniques that change a recording into something worth keeping.